Growing up I remember hearing the phrase, “A man’s home is his castle”. Who typically lives in a castle? A king, a queen, and later a prince(s) and/or a princess(es) right?
Take a moment and think about your husband’s answer to this question; “Do you feel like a “king” in our relationship, in our home?” What would his answer would be? To be honest, I don’t believe my husband would have an overly positive answer.
My days often drain me from schooling our little blessings, caring for a toddler, doing laundry and cooking, etc. At the end of my day peace, quiet and rest is what I long for!
When a couple is dating they pull out all the stops to impress each other. We don’t often miss an opportunity to make ourselves beautiful for a simple walk or coffee date. When we’re dating our men, we treat them like they are a “king”. With marriage, these actions seem to die off. Somehow it becomes less important to ensure our husbands know how special they are to us.
We can not allow ourselves to become complacent, we must work daily to ensure our husband feels like a “king”.
Ways to Daily Care for Your “king”
1. Pray for Him!
Faithfully taking him, his struggles, his job, etc. to the Lord is the #1 way to reveal how much you care for your husband. (We struggle praying for those we don’t care for, so since we married our husbands we obviously care about them, thus we should be in prayer for them.)
2. Keep him your #1 priority. (second to God alone)
If you’re a mom you must work exceptionally hard to ensure your kids do not take his rightful place.
Let the dishes sit for the night, the laundry can be folded later, time with your husband is most important.
3. Keep him fulfilled.
Take care that you do not neglect your time together in the bedroom.
Make it special candles, soft music, whatever sets the mood for you two.
Be prepared to initiate sometimes, between work, family and home responsibilities our husbands sometimes lack the motivation. Yet this time together is needed, it helps protect your marriage form lust and temptation.
4. Consult with him in any decisions you need to make.
Discuss your upcoming decisions with your husband, in doing so you’ll show him that his opinion is important to you.
5. Compliment him any chance you get.
Do this both at home and in public. Your husband needs to hear that you’re proud of him.
If you don’t do this there will most likely be another woman that will come along and do so, which will create issues within your marriage.
6. Cook for him.
It can be much easier to throw together a quick and easy meal, or something the kids like, but there’s nothing to be compared to a husband thrilled with the meal set before him.
7. Take care of yourself and your appearance.
Wear clothes your husband likes, do you hair the way you used to, etc.
Putting his preferences above your own further reveals your heart for him.
*There will be more on this topic next week*
There are my suggestions, and while I know a few of them must be applied to every marriage. Some of them may not be applicable to your marriage, they may not be ways to make your husband feel like a “king”.
Only you, your husband (who is not always quiet sure), and the Lord know what speaks to his heart. Take the time to figure out what does, it will be well work the time invested. When your husband feels like a “king”, then he’s motivated to return the favor by ensuring you know how special you are to him….as his “queen”.