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Caring for Your Husband....Your "king" - Simply Helping Him: Marriage Experience from a Help Meet



Sep 23

Caring for Your Husband….Your “king”

Growing up I remember hearing the phrase, “A man’s home is his castle”. Who typically lives in a castle? A king, a queen, and later a prince(s) and/or a princess(es) right?

Take a moment and think about your husband’s answer to this question; “Do you feel like a “king” in our relationship, in our home?”  What would his answer would be? To be honest, I don’t believe my husband would have an overly positive answer.

My days often drain me from schooling our little blessings, caring for a toddler, doing laundry and cooking, etc. At the end of my day peace, quiet and rest is what I long for!

While all of these tasks are important and required, we must not forget our purpose. We were created for our husbands. They must come first.

When a couple is dating they pull out all the stops to impress each other. We don’t often miss an opportunity to make ourselves beautiful for a simple walk or coffee date. When we’re dating our men, we treat them like they are a “king”. With marriage, these actions seem to die off. Somehow it becomes less important to ensure our husbands know how special they are to us.


We can not allow ourselves to become complacent, we must work daily to ensure our husband feels like a “king”.

Ways to Daily Care for Your “king”

1. Pray for Him!

Faithfully taking him, his struggles, his job, etc. to the Lord is the #1 way to reveal how much you care for your husband. (We struggle praying for those we don’t care for, so since we married our husbands we obviously care about them, thus we should be in prayer for them.)

2. Keep him your #1 priority. (second to God alone)

If you’re a mom you must work exceptionally hard to ensure your kids do not take his rightful place.

Let the dishes sit for the night, the laundry can be folded later, time with your husband is most important.

3. Keep him fulfilled.

Take care that you do not neglect your time together in the bedroom.

Make it special candles, soft music, whatever sets the mood for you two.

Be prepared to initiate sometimes, between work, family and home responsibilities our husbands sometimes lack the motivation. Yet this time together is needed, it helps protect your marriage form lust and temptation.

4. Consult with him in any decisions you need to make.

Discuss your upcoming decisions with your husband, in doing so you’ll show him that his opinion is important to you.

5. Compliment him any chance you get.

Do this both at home and in public. Your husband needs to hear that you’re proud of him.

If you don’t do this there will most likely be another woman that will come along and do so, which will create issues within your marriage.

6. Cook for him.

It can be much easier to throw together a quick and easy meal, or something the kids like, but there’s nothing to be compared to a husband thrilled with the meal set before him.

7. Take care of yourself and your appearance.

Wear clothes your husband likes, do you hair the way you used to, etc.

Putting his preferences above your own further reveals your heart for him.

*There will be more on this topic next week*


There are my suggestions, and while I know a few of them must be applied to every marriage. Some of them may not be applicable to your marriage, they may not be ways to make your husband feel like a “king”.

Only you, your husband (who is not always quiet sure), and the Lord know what speaks to his heart. Take the time to figure out what does, it will be well work the time invested. When your husband feels like a “king”, then he’s motivated to return the favor by ensuring you know how special you are to him….as his “queen”.

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  1. mommaroars

    This actually made me very sad. This post has got it all backwards. We cannot put ourselves last all of the time. If we do, we will run ourselves dry and we won’t have anything to give. My husband and I plan weekly time that he can go out and have time to himself and also time that I can as well. Sometimes he lets me jump in the bath to relax while he corrals the kids for a while. Why? Because my needs are important too, and he knows that. After a day of chasing kids around, my husband understands if the meal is a quick easy one. My husband likes my hair down, but I don’t wear it down because I have a baby that likes to latch onto it and pull with all her little might. The point is that you both sacrifice for each other. You keep each other happy. Plan regular dates. My husband loves me, so although he might like my hair a certain way, he understands why I don’t always wear it that way. He loves me regardless.

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      During different times in our lives, we must adapt our lives to what we have going on. Such as what you stated for having your hair up do to an infant. Taking care of yourself is one of the reminders I listed in this post, so I’m not sure if you stopped reading before you reached the end? I personally don’t believe that another person can keep you happy. Happiness is not a state of the heart, it is a feeling and they are often deceptive. I know that God designed us women to care for our husbands, children and homes. When I am doing this with a right and focused heart, I find that I am more at peace, joyful, and balanced, which enables my “long” days not to seem so “long”. Our husband’s love should not be dependent on the things we do. Our actions in putting our husband first is to further reveal OUR love for him.

  2. Tauna

    Great reminders. I need to put a bit more attention into a few of these areas! Thanks!

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      🙂 As do I 🙂 I write often to myself in hopes that someone else could use encouragement 🙂 Blessings!

  3. Crystal Green

    This is such a great post. The only one I’m honestly lacking being able to do for my husband is prepare him decent meals because I never know what he’s working. Today he actually took the day off, and he’s been laying in bed watching TV all day long. Tonight we have a date night planned for us once we put the kids to bed!! I can’t wait. My husband is definitely my king and knight and shining armor.

    I write about marriage on Wednesdays most weeks. 🙂

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Having a crazy schedule does make it difficult to know what to make, and when to have it ready. I try to have a new meal cooked most days, and he can reheat it if he gets home after dinnertime. I hope y’all’s date night went well! I’m hoping to sneak one of those in this week/weekend. Blessings!

  4. Gina

    I am working with Proverbs 31 at the moment so this is fitting right in. It is hard at the end of the day to always find the energy and the time for he who is my soul mate, good reminder.

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Oh yes, finding the energy is often the hardest, I try to remember that having energy for time with him is more important than that last laundry basket being folded, or the dishes being put away. I strive to save that last bit of energy for him, even if it is just a few minutes before we both fall asleep. 🙂 Blessings hun!

  5. Caroline

    Thanks for these reminders 🙂

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      You’re very welcome! 🙂

  6. Missy

    Thank you for your post, and for your blog! This is such an important message! Women need to hear (read) you are saying! It was a good reminder for me too. Some days it is so hard to remember to put my husband first when I am so tired at the end of the day, yet that is the only time I get to spend with him. I love him dearly and I want him to know it! Thank you for sharing!

    I found your post on Mom’s Monday Mingle @ The Naptime Review.

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Yes, it is hard at the end of our days to put someone else above ourselves. Some days I want to just crawl into a bathtub and a book, and ignore the world. Heehee 🙂 I’m working to discipline myself to wait until the kiddos are in bed, and my hubby is resting on the couch with the remote in his hand. 🙂 Blessings!

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