Jul 30

When Me Becomes We

In the beginning of a relationship typically everything you do, the other person is always put first. What they like, what they like to do, eat, etc. is often considered before yourself.

Interestingly this often fades as the relationship passes through time. You begin to think of yourself, your wants, needs and desires without thinking of your spouse.

The beauty of togetherness begins to see selfishness rear its ugly head. All the time it was pushed away, it seems it is making up for in short order.

Once again, just as we choose to love, we must choose to be selfless. Choosing to fulfill our spouses wants needs and desires above our own. Doing so is fulfilling our calling as a couple, as God intended.

Genesis 2:24b

“… they shall be one flesh.”

When we are consistent in showing our spouse they are our priority, above even ourselves, they will begin to notice, comment and return the favor! Often they don’t even realize they are doing so!

It is often the simple things that our spouses notice, choosing to cook their favorite meal, washing their car, letting them finish their sentences, putting the kids to bed when they’re being difficult, etc. When our actions show we’ve thought of them and their needs, this is living WE vs. ME.

It’s not about me. ME has become WE, the way God intended it to be!Β 

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How do you live as WE vs. ME?

In what ways has your spouse noticed?



Breakfast Tacos

A very simple, but super yummy breakfast!


Ingredients :






Chop and brown potatoes in oil

Cook bacon until semi-crunchy


Scramble eggs in a bit of leftover bacon grease

Warm Tortilla

Put it all together

Wrap it up!




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  1. What Joy Is Mine

    What a sweet reminder of how marriage should be. And your tacos look delish! Thank you for sharing at WJIM this week.

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      It is a sweet connection that we often forget πŸ˜‰ Thank you for stoppin by! πŸ™‚ Blessings!

  2. Kari

    Oh, this looks so good. Going to try this tomorrow morning. Love your post and your heart for marriage.
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    1. simplyhelpinghim

      It is very yummy! πŸ™‚ Thank you for stoppin by girly! Blessings friend!

  3. homemaker-mom.com

    Ok I seriously have to make this for my kids they will LOVE This! Thank you!

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      My kids love it as well! πŸ™‚ Thanks for stoppin by friend! πŸ™‚ Blessings!

  4. roseann elliott

    Oh yes…we not me…I can say after 31 yrs. of marriage…it is hard to see where I stop and my husband begins…the melding over the years blurs those ugly lines…good words here…blessings to you~
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    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Beautiful! At 7 yrs, I am thoroughly looking forward to the masterpiece God continues to create in us! Thank you for stoppin by! Blessings!

  5. Chelle

    What a lovely thought. Are you familiar with Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages? Reading this so reminds me of that…learning to love your spouse in their primary language is another way to consider living as WE vs. ME.
    Thank you so much for sharing-I’m glad I linked with Hear it on Sunday, Use it on Monday.
    Peace and good.
    Chelle recently posted..Connecting the dots…What are you doing with all God has given you??My Profile

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Yes, I am familiar with that book. I read it several years ago, and hadn’t even thought of it when I wrote this! πŸ™‚ Thanks for the reminder and for stoppin by! Blessings!

  6. summer

    I love this. Me has become we and thanks for the reminder. I always try to put the hubs first, but like you said after years of marriage, the devil can creep in and we can be selfish and I sure do need to learn sometimes to be more selfless! I love those breakfast burittos. They look so yum. I may have to make a quick drive thru to micky d’s now lol! Over from Carissa’s. New follower.

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Micky D’s don’t compare to making them at home πŸ˜‰ Reminders are something we all need from time to time! Thanks for stoppin by! Blessings!

  7. Lucy

    So true! Even if your married, single, young or old sometimes we put ourselves before serving other people.

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Very true πŸ˜‰ Thanks for stoppin by! Blessings!

  8. Elizabeth@Warrior Wives

    That breakfast recipe looks great! I hate breakfast with a passion and am always looking for something to make that I might actually WANT to eat. Thanks for sharing!
    Elizabeth@Warrior Wives recently posted..Warrior Wives Don’t Fight AloneMy Profile

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      It is very yummy and super easy! πŸ™‚ Thanks for stoppin by! Blessings!

  9. Michele-Lyn

    Just a simply gesture of sitting next to him at Cracker Barrel instead of with a child in between, made his day. I will go with this thought of “we vs me” throughout my week! Thanks for sharing.

    Visiting from Michelle Derusha.
    Michele-Lyn recently posted..Hearing God’s Voice, Slippery Rocks, Spiders {and Counting Gifts}My Profile

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Ahh yes, being able to name what shows the “we” vs “me” is wonderful! Thank you for stoppin by! Blessings!

  10. Heart and Soul

    Hey there, found you over at Carissa’s … so nice to meet you out here in the blogosphere. Love your thought about the me in We πŸ™‚
    Heart and Soul recently posted..Living inspired, alwaysMy Profile

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Me becoming We is very important πŸ™‚ Thanks for stoppin by! πŸ™‚ Blessings!

  11. Debbie

    I definitely need to be living more in the “we” than “me”. Thanks for this reminder.
    Debbie recently posted..Do We Walk What We Talk?My Profile

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Yes, I believe we all need the reminder from time to time πŸ˜‰ Thank you for stoppin by! Blessings!

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