Last week I shared my first Reflection 2013 post on Life in general. Today I’m going to be reflecting on love throughout 2013. Going into this year my husband and I knew there was a lot coming our way this year. I think both of us talking about the changes that would be happening helped us prepare for them both together and separately.
Looking back over this year it really is amazing to see how close my husband and I have become. I’m blessed to be able to see all that God has done despite us.
In my marriage God has been at work in me so that I am more apt to be able to handle a difficult conversation with little emotion. In the past my emotions have driven my life, and it made many of my relationships in life (not just my marriage) very difficult. This change has brought about a depth in my relationship with my husband that previously was not there. Our conversations are more in number and we’re growing to enjoy them.
Understanding a Need for Alone Time
I’ve grown to understand his need for having alone time. His need for quiet time has allowed me to write more and enjoy the quiet after a long day with kiddos. I’ve also seen how allowing him to have his space has drawn him to enjoy time with me when we’re out vs. if I have been nagging him about “always wanting alone time”.
Date Nights are Nice, but Not a Requirement
Date nights are not a necessity as they used to be for me anymore. It’s more important to have time at home together as a family. Whether it’s just the two of us watching a movie or talking, the family each doing our own thing, or all of us stacking wood together. These are the times I must cherish.
On Going Home
In the past when I used to go “home” and visit my parents I wouldn’t want to come back. I struggled greatly with being so far away from them and being “alone in Maine”. This year when I went back “home” for my little brother’s wedding, for the first time in 8 years, I wanted to go home. I missed my husband, my home, and my life. This really was both hard and good for me. Hard because I feel like I’m saying I don’t “need” them anymore. Yet I will always need them, and I do still miss them terribly. Good because it shows that God is growing me up into the woman He wants me to be. The wife and mother He created me to be.
My Perfect Love Example
My love for my husband continues to grow throughout our marriage each day. Love is becoming rare in this world we live in. I’m very thankful that I know the Author of love, and that His perfect example that I can look to each and every day. No matter how wonderful or how sad my day may be, His love is a guide for me.
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