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I Have An Imperfect House and It's Ok - Simply Helping Him: Marriage Experience from a Help Meet



Jan 17

I Have An Imperfect House and It’s Ok

I’ve been so very blessed to be part of the No More Perfect Mom‘s book launch team. This book is life changing, and I encourage, no I beg, every mother…..every woman to take the time to read Jill’s book.

Today, all of the Hearts at Home bloggers are sharing about how they have come to terms with their imperfect homes. Be sure to stop by Jill’s corner, to find the links to their posts.


The first 5 years of my marriage, I worked outside our home. My children were in daycare while I worked full time.

I “killed” myself those 5 years, striving to be the perfect employee, helpmeet, mother, chef and housekeeper. I gave up sleep as well as food, to ensure my home was perfectly clean and orderly. I was under 100 lbs. and blackouts were happening daily.

I wish I could say that as a stay at home mom, I have it down pat. Yet, I can not.

There is clutter, that comes with having lil blessings. They are more important than a shiny floor, or a beautifully painted wall.

There are days my floors need to be swept, or bedrooms have yet to beΒ tidied. Problem is, my lil blessings don’t stop growing while they wait on me to clean my house to perfection.

Laundry comes from every basket, filling a room, and it will be there still. After I’ve colored a picture of a pony, or played Ninjago.

You see, I’ve begun to see how much time I’ve missed. I prayed for a long time that God would allow me to be a stay at home mom. When He brought it to pass, I wanted to be perfect. I wanted the white picket fence, wrap-a-round porch, rose bushes, beautiful decor, delicious and lovely meals….and I sacrificed time…..time that I can’t get back.

My lil blessings are 10 and 8, in just a few months. I don’t have much time left with them in my home, in my arms.

My house is imperfect, because I’m working on relationships with the perfect-for-me blessings He’s given me.


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  1. Angell @ Passionate and Creative Homemaking

    I think my biggest struggle with the house is my husband is a neat freak. He gets filled with anxiety and is just not calm if the house isn’t “perfect.” He doesn’t like anything on any table, or surface for that matter. He doesn’t like anything on the floor and he likes everything in its place.

    So I have to battle with letting things go and also submitting to hubby for a cleaner home. I too get filled with anxiety over the house but I haven’t figured it out yet if it’s because I’m anxious of having to clean it for hubby, or if I’m turning into a neat freak lol

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Oh yes, somehow we change to be more like our mates. I understand that all too well! I have a hubby who loves to eat, so I’m striving this year to cook more for him, not what I like, but what he does. Just as you striving to clean for him πŸ˜‰ Blessings to you for doing that which touches your hubby’s heart! Peace from heaven above for it is perfect! πŸ™‚

  2. Laura @ Pruning Princesses

    Misty, I had no idea our kids were almost the same age. Having tried both the working mom and STAHM gigs it is probably easier for you to see more clearly how to prioritize your time. Thanks for the encouragement.

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      I didn’t know either πŸ˜‰ That’s neat! πŸ™‚ Prioritizing is hard either way, cause it’s easy to get caught up in all the things you want to do, and neglect the things that still need to be done. Last night I had a Cub Scout pack meeting, I was exhausted when I got home and when to bed. I had a very cluttered living room waiting for me this morning because I didn’t take time to tidy up last night. :/ Oh the joys of being a mom! πŸ™‚

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