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Choosing to Love Through a Valley - Simply Helping Him: Marriage Experience from a Help Meet



Feb 20

Choosing to Love Through a Valley

This year has had a bit of a rough start.

A time of growing through a valley is what I’ve decided it must be.

In the valley is where we must grow, for only with strength acquired through the growth will we be able to stand on the mountaintop! <— Tweet! Tweet!


Through the valley the hardest thing for me to do is choose to love.

I would rather draw back intoΒ seclusion until the distance in my marriage seems to lessen.

Yet, I am learning that this does not help the growth or strength process.


This last week is a big week in my family.

My stepson’s birthday is the 11th, Valentine’s Day is the 14th and hubby’s birthday is the 16th.

It is a busy and fun week in our home! Lots of celebrating to be found.


This year, I didn’t want to do anything.

I wanted to just skip that week.

Except, it would have been selfish and wrong.


So instead I chose to love through my valley.

My kiddos and my hubby.

Loving them, and growing in strength.


My stepson wasn’t at our home on his birthday, so I chose the next day that he would be with us to celebrate.

Which was also Valentine’s Day. LOL


I made his and hubby’s favorite dinner…. Tacos

As well as their favorite cake….. Triple Chocolate Bliss Cake

I made everyone their Valentine’s Day Goodies too!

It was a very busy day in the kitchen!


For hubby’s birthday, I took him away for the weekend and rented a snowmobile for a day.


This was not an easy choice for me, and there were times that I almost cancelled the entire trip.

I am learning that nothing worth doing is gonna be easy.

My marriage is priceless.

Thus it won’t be easy.

I know that it is worth it.

For one day I know I will stand on the mountaintop!

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  1. NJ @ A Cookie Before Dinner

    Love isn’t always a feeling is it? A lot of time it is a choice. A choice that is sometimes hard to make. Your hard work will pay off!

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Oh no it isn’t! LOL! It is a daily choice and the feelings can be there at times πŸ™‚ Thanks for stoppin by! Blessings!

  2. Janis Cox

    Choices are important – how we greet the day; how we deal with troubles. Having Jesus at our side reminds us that He can take us through anything – and with joy.

    Praying that you will continue even in the valley to see the joy in each moment of the day.


    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Thank you for the prayers! πŸ™‚ Jesus walking through it all with me, is such a comfort! πŸ™‚ Blessings!

  3. Jerralea

    Loving through the valley times is definitely the way to grow spiritually. Thanks for sharing about your choice to value your marriage even when it’s hard.

    (I’d be scared to death to ride a snowmobile!)

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Yes, growing isn’t a pleasant thing all the time, lots of pulling, stretching and weeding happens πŸ˜‰ Thank you for stoppin by! The snowmobile was tons of fun, there were a few scary moments mostly due to the fact that my helmet froze up and I couldn’t see! :/ Blessings!

  4. Diane Roark

    With 5 children (teens) and 3 of them special needs, my husband and I get NO time together. So, cherish the time you have to spend together. We will get our time one day.
    I have not had a chance to stop by your blog lately because I have been working on changing my blog theme/design. Please check out my new blog theme and let me know what you think. Blessings to you! Diane

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Yes, time together is few and far between. I am very thankful and blessed for the time we are able to spend alone together. I’ll be sure to swing by your corner and see the new layout πŸ™‚ Blessings!

  5. Kathleen

    The snowmobile trip must have been a blast! How fun! You are such a loving wife and great mom… Those valleys and deserts times can be great learning processes – although it doesn’t always feel like it. Bless You!

    1. susan

      I love your blog : )

      1. simplyhelpinghim

        Awe! Thank you! πŸ™‚

    2. simplyhelpinghim

      It was TONS of fun! πŸ™‚ Thanks for the encouragement sis! Blessings!

  6. Judith at WholeHearted Home

    Keep pressing on doing good things for your dear husband. You are doing the right thing by cooking and doing for your family when you might be exhausted and feel like giving up. Being a wife and mother is a high calling and worth the effort. Love your step-son unconditionally as that will speak volumes to your husband and his son. It is hard enough for him.

    Thanks for the linkup today. Have a wonderfully blessed day!!

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Oh yes, a high calling! I love that! πŸ™‚ Thank you for the encouragement! Blessings! πŸ™‚

  7. Shell

    It’s worth the effort to love during those times.

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Yes it is πŸ™‚

  8. Mary @ Redo 101

    Your heart is right, and that is a beautiful thing to see. I guess we all struggle with similar things, this piece is an encouragement to me.


    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Yes, we all have our own struggles. Humbled that you found my corner encouraging. (((hugs))) Blessings!

  9. Rachael DeBruin

    Just found your site through another blog link up (Winsome Wed).
    I am your newest follower πŸ™‚

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      πŸ™‚ I’m so glad you stopped by! πŸ™‚ Blessings!

  10. Barbara

    And yielding to God is so so so worth it! Great job, Misty!

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Yes, yielding to Him, giving up myself. Thanks hun! Blessings!

  11. Tehila

    You beautiful woman of God! So inspiring the way you sacrificially choose to walk in the Saviour’s ways! So hard, yet you WILL hear Him one day say, “Well done, good and faithful servant!” And it will all be worth it. You have my greatest admiration and support!

    Keep on precious sister! You are a beacon of light to us all!!!

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      I’m a Princess that is a work in progress πŸ˜‰ How thankful I am that He continues to work in me. Thank you for your kind words and encouragement! Blessings!

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