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Help Meet Practical Game Rule #5 ~ To Be Chaste - Simply Helping Him: Marriage Experience from a Help Meet



Feb 18

Help Meet Practical Game Rule #5 ~ To Be Chaste

I am very blessed to be married to a man that Debi Pearl refers to as “honest and candid”. He has shared with me the truth and importance of this matter. Something I truly did not understand as a woman before he stressed the importance of this topic. It is something I am still learning to this day. For some reason it does not come easy for me, though I strive to ask hubby before we leave the house if my attire is appropriate.

Take heed ladies, we have a power that many of us don’t truly know the depth of.


We aged women are to teach the young women to be chaste: pure in thought, word, and act, and to be modest and honorable in all things. 

A chaste woman is a modest woman. God speaks of a woman maintaining her chastity and purity by the clothes she wears. God says that a woman’s apparel should profess godliness.

“In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.” (2 Tim. 2:9-10)


It is impossible for a woman to understand a man’s visual drive. She can only believe what an honest and candid man tells her, but few men are willing to admit to their weakness. A woman’s body, moving within visual range of a man, unless it is modestly covered in a way that says to the man that you have no interest in him taking pleasure in your appearance, can be as stimulating to him as disrobing completely. He may be a better man than the woman who is dressing immodestly and may have the fortitude to deny his eyes the stimulation you offer, but it makes you a source of temptation to sin, rather than someone to whom he can relate. 

Jesus said that a lusting man commits adultery WITH a woman, not against her, meaning that the woman is included in the lusting adultery. Women have told me that they are “not convicted” about the way they dress, as if God has to chase them down and torment them about it before they will obey His Word. Many are offended when their “style of dressing” is called into question. 

It is the will of God for you to always be modest in public. It is your profession of godliness.

Because Bathsheba was indiscreet, she caused great calamity. resulting in the bloodshed and suffering of many. Her lack of discretion cost her husband his life, his comrades-in-arms their lives, her baby son his life, and the integrity of one whom God upheld as a man after his own heart. David should have been with his men, but he was not out looking for a woman. She provided the opportunity for him to lust by her lack of discretion in where she chose to bathe. Her beautiful body won out in a contest between his flesh and his love for God. Generations have associated the name of Bathsheba with a wicked woman, yet she was the wife of a fine military man. All she lacked was modesty and discretion. Too often in life, many tragedies would never have taken place, if only…..


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All text in italics are from Debi Pearl’s book “Created to be His Help Meet”

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  1. Elizabeth Ours

    Thank you for sharing this important post. It is something that needs to be shared often. It is so easy for women to jump on the latest fashion bandwagon without any thought to modesty and propriety. Thank you for having the courage to speak up. I’m glad you linked up with me for Marriage Monday!

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Oh yes, fashion is so easy to just jump into! My daughter is a lot like pippi longstocking and I was just talking to my hubby saying I love that she is comfortable with who she is, I think that it will help greatly when she is a teenager and she won’t be driven by the fads everyone else will be wearing. Thanks for stoppin by! Blessings!

  2. Chasing Joy

    Interesting perspective.

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      God’s perspective 🙂 Thanks for stoppin by! Blessings!

  3. Joan

    I so agree…women quite often don’t understand the “power” they have in regard to the visual distraction we can cause. When I was younger, I was absolutely naive in this area (you know…back in the days of the tube top and really short shorts!!) But, I have since learned that how we dress is not something to be taken lightly. My rule now, as I get dressed, is to ask myself, “Will how I am dressing possibly cause someone else to sin?” I do not want to be the cause of someone having a wayward thought, you know? Of course God made us and crafted us beautifully…but flaunting that or being immodest is not correct behavior. I don’t consider myself a “prude”, but I don’t ever want to cause someone to stumble.

    Thanks for the important post!

    Blessings, Joan

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Exactly, we can still look nice and impress our men, but we must ensure that they are comfortable with our attire as they know best what other men are going to think when they see us. We must love and respect our husbands so much that this truly enters our mind when we are dressing! Thank you for stoppin by! Blessings!

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