Handling Disappointment

It happens, though we often know it shouldn’t. Though we tell ourselves not to have expectations, though we work really hard to ensure we don’t. There are times, when we will find ourselves disappointed in our husbands (and vice versa).

Just like most things, it isn’t the disappointed feeling that is important, it’s what we do with it that matters.

Do we keep it tucked away inside? Let go and let God? Argue and dispute it with him? Fume to ourselves and shut down?

I only wish I could say that I handled disappointment rightly all the time.

I grew up with a very close family. Being a military family brings you close to each other, probably because of all the moving. It is something that I grew up loving, and I suppose I assumed all families were like that.

Hubby didn’t grow up like that.

Often I find myself “expecting” things of him and our family without even realizing it until the disappointment sets in.

Most times I am able to remind myself that our family is different than mine, and that it’s ok. We are all unique and God put us all together for a reason.

Other times, like this past weekend……..I decided we needed to “talk” about my particular disappointment.

This can be beneficial, if you are able to stay on topic, unemotional and strengthen your marriage/family relationships in the process.

It can harm your relationship if you have the wrong attitude, are seeking to only be right and throw darts.

Knowing how to handle each unique disappointment, is a serious matter of prayer.

We tend to expect things of others based on how we handle things. Which is unfair, and we would be/are upset when someone does this to us.

Allowing God to work through our disappointment, often reveals more about us than our hubby. 

As is often the case when we hand things over to Him. He is so much better at handling difficult situations. I wish I could remember that in the “heat of the moment”.

My hubby has been quoting a particular verse to the kiddos lately, when we have been struggling with ugly words, strife, etc.

Romans 12:18

“If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.”

This is true in our marriages, as well as our day to day lives. Living in peace. With all men…… including our hubby and kiddos.

Does disappointment show it’s face in your marriage? Your family? Friendships?

Choose to deal with it peaceably. Pray about how God would have you handle each disappointment. His way is perfect. He will not steer you wrong.