Dec 03

Kings & Kingdoms

Is your husband the king of your home? Is your home his castle?

Does he feel like a king when he is home?


Man was created to rule. It is his nature. But the only place most men will ever rule is their own little kingdom called home.

When you neglect to reverence your husband, you are taking something precious away from yourself, your children, and your husband.

Your husband is not there to show you deference or to be your helper. It is NOT God’s will for your husband to reverence you. It is not God’s plan for you to remain seated at the dinner table or in your lounge expect him to serve us. It hurts our feelings if he doesn’t do things that we feel he owes us, but that is not the plan God set in place. Our failure to know and believe the written words of God has caused us to accept a cultural lie.

God made man so that our deference and respect feed his tendency to show tenderness and to be protective of us.

Reverence is not just how you act; it is how you feel and how you respond with words and with your body language. It is not enough to get up and serve him; your eyes and the quick, carefree swing of your body must indicate your delight to be engaged in serving your man. You cannot fool a man. He can see your heart as well or better than you can. Keep and eye on his dinner plate so you can anticipate his needs. Deference is a hot cup of tea while you take his shoes off after a hard day’s work. It is a glad face when he returns after being gone for a short time.It is thankfulness for his attention and affection. Deference to your man is the height of true femininity. It makes a beautiful, gracious, and lovely to all, but especially to him.

To reverence is an active verb. It is something you do. It is not first a feeling; it is a voluntary act. As we reverence and honor our husbands, they are free to mature before God and to minister to others.


You cannot command your husband to love you, and you have no right to expect him to love you when you are unlovely. <— Truth Share It!


The very heart of reverence is extreme appreciation and profound thankfulness that this man, just as he is, has chosen to love me, just as I am.

A man will allow his woman many, many faults, as long as he knows that she thinks he is great. <— Oh yes! Share Me!



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  1. What Joy Is Mine

    Great encouragement from God’s Word. Thank you for sharing, and encouraging, at WJIM. Have a blessed week.

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      🙂 Thank you for stoppin by and for your kind words! Blessings!

  2. Laura

    I notice a difference in my husband when I take care to love him this way. Good thoughts!

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Oh don’t we though? It’s amazing how differently they respond when we treat them this way?! Blessings!

  3. Rubi

    Thanks for this post! We need to remember to treat our husbands as Kings our the castle. But honey, don’t forget that you are the Queen! God made us equals. This is an interesting interpretation of the “helpmeet” verse. I thought you might enjoy reading this analysis of the original Hebrew world “ezer” from which “helpmeet” was derived.

    Have a blessed day,


    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Thank you for stoppin by. I’m afraid I don’t agree with you on your statement that we were created equal. In Genesis 3, after Eve had been deceived, God told her “thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” In the New Testament, our husbands are called to love us as Christ loved the Church, Christ is the head of the Church, thus our husbands are the head of our households. Blessings!

  4. Ugochi

    My husband says to me all the time ‘treat me like your king”… And I fail most of the time, but I am going to keep trying. Thanks for sharing friend. Visiting from the MM party, have a super blessed day!

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Yes, it is a daily battle to remember to treat our husband’s like the king’s of our homes! 🙂 Thank you for sharing and stoppin by! Blessings!

  5. Mindy @ New Equus - A New Creation

    Ha! Ha! I am so thankful that my husband loves me despite my many faults, quirks and issues! And I am so thankful that God shows me the true heart of my husband without his faults, quirks and issues getting in the way! 😀

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Amen! 🙂 Oh that we would love them with all their flaws and still treat them as the king of our homes!! Blessings sis! 🙂

  6. Kelly @ The Houtz House Party

    Girl, I couldn’t agree more and this lie that the world spins is truly a LIE! People will tell you things that the bible says and women should not serve men BUT those same people fail to highlight what the bible says about how men treat their wives! It’s a circle. 🙂

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Yes, it is true, husbands do have a calling on how they are to treat their wives. We can’t control them though, only our own actions. 😉 As wives we are the only ones given promise that we can win our husbands by our words and actions. 😉 Blessings hun!

  7. Barbara Isaac

    Challenging post… is my husband the king of his castle? Hmmm… help me Lord to adapt myself to him more and more. Thanks!

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Amen! 🙂 I struggle with this daily! Thanks for stoppin by 😉 Blessings sis!

  8. Lisa

    You were right on the mark when you said “Our failure to know and believe the written words of God has caused us to accept a cultural lie.” We are far to easily deceived, unfortunately. Thanks for the great post!

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Yes, we are easily deceived. I’m so thankful I know the Truth for it sets me free! 🙂 Blessings!

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