Sep 21

Friend Friday with Spotlight 316 Ministries

Today I have Deanna from Spotlight 316 Ministries as my guest! She has a heart for ministry and you can see it by the way she writes! Thank you “D” for be a part of my corner today! Make sure you swing by her corner 😉


We love because he first loved us.”  ~ 1 John 4:19

My husband and I are on opposite ends of the spectrum. Sometimes I wonder how on earth we got together!
He likes hunting – too gory for me!
He likes vegging in front of the television – I feel like a slug.
He likes exercise – I’m not so motivated.
I am constantly on the move – he needs to rest.
I‘d rather be cold than hot – he hates to be cold.
I can’t go to bed with a sink full of dishes – he doesn’t even notice.
His love language is touch – mine is time. They both start with “t…”
If I were to be brutally honest, I’d tell you he’s not the man I dreamed of. He doesn’t leave me daily love notes or buy me weekly flowers. He doesn’t surprise me with romantic get-aways or meaningful gifts. But that’s okay…because it isn’t those things that show me his love. In fact, I’d probably think something was wrong if he suddenly proposed a trip for two or showered me with some lavish gift.
To be fair, I am probably not the woman Mike dreamed of either. The one who loves to cook up a storm. The one who always has a polished look in the midst of a sparkling clean home, whiter-than-white laundry, and windows you can actually see through without thinking there is fog outside. He probably wonders what I have done or want/need when he comes home to a piping hot dinner and a wife who did her hair!
I suppose that few people marry the perfect person of their dreams…and I got to thinking about that. If I married the person of my dreams, I’d probably be really unhappy, because “happily married, 2.5 kids, and white picket fence” is superficial.
I don’t want superficial love.
Instead, I got a man who loves me just as much on good hair days as on bad ones…and believe me, I have more bad than good! He loves me whether there is dinner on the table when he gets home or when he has to call for pizza. He loves me when he has to step over a minefield of toys to say hello to his frazzled wife or when the scent of candles fills the air with calmness.
That’s love.
So even though our days aren’t always pretty and the roads we travel are sometimes rough…I’m talking twists and turns at unexpected moments, rock cliffs, and steep inclines…we can live knowing we have a solid foundation of love. Genuine love. Sacrificial for each other. For better…and for worse.
What do you cherish about your marriage?
Deanna is a Christian wife and mom to three boys. She blogs about God in her everyday life and invites you to join her on the journey. In a casual and conversational manner, spotLIGHT316 will lift you up and encourage you to be extraordinary in the ordinary of life.
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  1. April

    I had no desire to get married and did not think I would because I didn’t want to have children. Well, God changed that. He gifted me with a wonderful son and the father to match. I cherish my husband because he puts up with me, my family and all those emotional struggles that I deal with regularly. I cherish that we made it through six years without so much of an argument, even though we have had immense struggles. I cherish that he allowed me to be a stay at home because that’s what I wanted. There is very little to complain about or not cherish about my marriage.
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    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Counting our blessings is so very important! Being thankful is something we must do! Thank you for sharing your thanksgiving! Blessings!

  2. Marci Smith

    What a wonderfully refreshing piece to read! Thank you for being real and honest. My husband and I are night and day, but how I love his differences. I haven’t always, but God showed me what a wonderful man He gave me. God is so cool, isn’t He!? 🙂
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    1. simplyhelpinghim

      That He is! 🙂 Amen! Blessings!

  3. Mindy @ New Equus - A New Creation

    Hey Deanna and Misty! Love this post! I have to say I did marry the man of my dreams the first time…and they ended up being superficial dreams. But, the second time God changed my dreams and my husband is everything I dreamed about. He is black and white opposite of what I picked the first time. I am so thankful God opened my eyes to what was really important! 🙂
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    1. simplyhelpinghim

      Isn’t it wonderful what God can do when we yield to Him? Even after we’ve gone and messed up? Love ya sis!

    2. Deanna

      Thanks Mindy! God did some pretty amazing things in my own marriage as well. My hubby and I married, divorced {long story}, and then remarried. We often joke about how we didn’t get it right the first time…

  4. Diane Roark

    I enjoy reading this post. It is a reminder to me what true love really is. Without true love in our marriage, we would not be working in our 28th year of marriage with 5 children including 3 with special needs. Blessings, Diane Roark http://www.recipesforourdailybread.com

    1. simplyhelpinghim

      That is awesome! Congrats! My parents will hit their 30th this year! It’s amazing! Blessings!

    2. Deanna

      Thanks Diane. God has truly been at work in my own marriage and I am so grateful for all he has done. Congrats to you on 28 years!!
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