Over the last two weeks or so, I’ve been struggling showing my love to my husband.
After almost a week of fighting these feelings, my mom reminded me of a saying that I love, and hadn’t thought of during this time.
“Don’t doubt in the darkness, what you know to be true in the light.” <— Shine the Light….
I had been so focused on all the negative….the lack of communication….lack of time together….lack of intimacy, etc. That I didn’t stop and remember that God is with me, just as much in the dark times, as He is in the light.
I had forgotten that in order to stand on the mountaintop and have an amazing experience, I must walk through the valley, that I might ever be grateful for the mountaintop!
So I have been taking a small step at a time, to CHOOSE to show my husband that I love him.
* Making meals he loves
* Timing dinner so we can sit and eat as a family
* Detail cleaning and organizing the living room
* Scheduling a surprise Valentine/Birthday getaway for him and I, without kiddos
Picking up my feet to take these steps wasn’t easy.
When I know hubby and I aren’t connected, I shut down and retreat.
I knew I had to choose to keep loving him, even if I didn’t feel like it.
God being so amazing, reached down and fill me with love for my hubby all over again! I knew God would see me through the valley, and though I’m far from the mountain, I’m walking through the valley with my Father by my side.
I’m walking on….step by step….working on my hind’s feet……so that I will be ready to be set upon high places….
Psalm 18:33
“He maketh my feet like hinds’ feet, and setteth me upon my high places.”
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Amber
February 1, 2013 at 6:44 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Hi Misty! I missed the link up, but I wanted to share my post specifically with you, because this week I too was struggling. So glad God is faithful, when my faith is on the rocks! http://seasontheday.blogspot.com/2013/01/be-still.html I encourage you to Be Still, know that God has got you and in Christ you have strength for ALL THINGS, lean on Him to love through you 🙂
simplyhelpinghim
February 2, 2013 at 8:58 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Thank you so very much Amber! I really appreciate that! 🙂 (((hugs))) Blessings!
What Jean Likes
February 1, 2013 at 2:42 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Hi lovely!! Linked up (of course) Thank you for hosting!!
Come on by and check out the Aloha Friday Blog Hop if you haven’t yet! Aloha Friday Blog Hop {HERE}
Aloha,
Jean
simplyhelpinghim
February 1, 2013 at 12:38 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Thanks hun! Blessings!
renee@joyful mom
January 30, 2013 at 10:56 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
I made stew and biscuits for dinner–I dislike stew and biscuits . . . that is love! My man knows that I dislike stew and biscuits so he raved and raved about how I make the best stew and biscuits–we shared a silent smile. Then he played a few songs from the 70’s as we cleaned the kitchen.
I’m sure the kids thought that we have totally lost it.
Things aren’t exactly what they used to be BUT we have a very deep appreciation for each other.
Be blessed. Thanks for sharing in such a way that make us want to share too!
simplyhelpinghim
January 31, 2013 at 10:44 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
What a sweetheart you are! Last night I was making fried pork chops and he asked me if I was making “shake n bake”, I took the time to throw his in the oven. It changed my plans, but made him happy 🙂 Blessings hun!
Judith at WholeHearted Home
January 30, 2013 at 3:45 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
I have been there but it is so much better as you do things to show your husband that you love him. Thanks for hosting.
simplyhelpinghim
January 31, 2013 at 10:42 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Yes, it is so much better to show love than wallow in self pity. Blessings hun!
Shell
January 30, 2013 at 3:24 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
It really is all about the attitude we take and what we choose to focus on.
simplyhelpinghim
January 31, 2013 at 10:42 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Amen! Blessings hun!
Tracy
January 30, 2013 at 3:13 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Hi there, I love this post. Just what I needed to read today. So glad you linked it up on Winsome Wednesday. I look forward to seeing you here again next week.
God bless
Tracy
simplyhelpinghim
January 31, 2013 at 10:42 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
🙂 Thank you for stoppin by! I’m blessed that God spoke to your heart through the difficulties I am facing. Humbling though it is. Blessings!
Kathleen
January 30, 2013 at 12:04 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
You got it right Misty, having that servant’s heart… It blesses and the blessings return 10 fold if not more. Have a wonderful day 🙂
simplyhelpinghim
January 31, 2013 at 10:41 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Yes, a servants heart 😉 Love ya!
Gretchen
January 30, 2013 at 10:53 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
I was so blessed by this post. It does seem that those ‘valley times’ are long and sometimes too often. I applaud you for sticking to it! When I find it to be most difficult is when my eyes are not on the LORD. When we are both looking towards Him, I can reach over and grab my husbands hand and we are once again running the same direction.
Blessings, Gretchen 🙂
simplyhelpinghim
January 31, 2013 at 10:41 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Oh yes, our eyes must be set on Him; He is the Author and Finisher of our faith and through Him alone will we finish well! Thank you for stoppin by, linking up and blessing my heart! Blessings to you and yours!
paula
January 30, 2013 at 9:52 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
I have been there, and it’s hard! after the birth of our 2nd baby I was so worn out from chasing 2 kids and recovering myself, that I didn’t have energy to do anything to make him feel loved or appreciated, and I was resenting him for not doing the same for me! I realized that he was probably just as worn out as I was, and some one would have to make the first move, so I did, and things got a lot better! I have found that I have to be much more intentional in the season of life that we are in now, but it is worth it!
I hope that’s encouraging to you! I don’t know what circumstances have brought you to this place, but I know that God is greater than whatever troubles you are facing <3
simplyhelpinghim
January 31, 2013 at 10:40 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Yes, being intentional in our words and actions is key. Doesn’t mean it is easy, but nothing worth doing ever is 😉 Blessings sis!
Emily Cook (@Weakandloved)
January 30, 2013 at 8:50 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Lovely post, and great quote.
“Don’t doubt in the darkness, what you know to be true in the light.”
Keep on stepping forward, and leaning on Him as you go! God loves a cheerful giver, but God also loves a humble receiver! 🙂
simplyhelpinghim
January 30, 2013 at 9:11 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Yes, though sometimes I’m not “stepping” forward, I’m “falling” forward. Thank you for your kind words! Blessings!
A Little R & R
January 30, 2013 at 8:47 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Thank you for your sincerity and for sharing this wonderful wisdom. We all go through these valleys and need to remember the truth you shared here. Love you, sis!
simplyhelpinghim
January 30, 2013 at 9:10 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Yes, even in the valley we must look for that which God is working in our lives! Love ya too sis! (((hugs)))
Auntie Em/Melinda Stanton
January 30, 2013 at 8:17 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Thanks for sharing this– you are modeling good “servant” behavior; putting on your apron and serving regardless of your emotions telling you to be selfish! A perfect representative of my post this week lol!
simplyhelpinghim
January 30, 2013 at 9:09 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
🙂 Now I have to swing by your corner 😉 Thanks for your kind words Auntie Em 🙂 Blessings!
Mrs. Sarah Coller
January 30, 2013 at 7:11 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
This really blessed me,Misty, thank you!
Sarah
simplyhelpinghim
January 30, 2013 at 9:09 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
You’re very welcome 🙂 Thanks for stoppin by! Blessings sis!
Tiff
January 30, 2013 at 4:34 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Im not even sure how I found your site but ….Glory to God – it has been such a tremendous blessing to me!! I appreciate your honesty and I pray that Lord will continue to bless your family and your ministry as you have blessed me.
P.s. I’m your newest follower.
simplyhelpinghim
January 30, 2013 at 9:12 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Humbling I thank you for giving glory to God for Him directing to that which you need. It is always amazing to me how He does this in my life! Blessings to you!
Tehila
January 30, 2013 at 1:42 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Dearest friend,
Thank you so much for sharing your struggles so openly. Each and every time I have read your posts, I’ve been humbled by your raw willingness to openly expose your heart. I love the way you look to the Saviour in all things, and the way that He so faithfully comes to your aid each and every time.
I can relate to you in many ways. My hubby and I will have been married 14 years in March, and we had many hardships, similar to the ones you describe on your blog.
But please be encouraged, dear one. As you get through each and every one of the tough times, God is honouring your perseverance, and your seeking Him, and marriage will get richer and better and more and more blessed as they years go by.
My hubby and I still have our moments, but when I look back to even 5 or 6 years ago, I can’t compare how wonderful our marriage is now to the way it was then.
This of course was only possible with God, and I remember those dark times so well, where God’s light was all I could hold on to.
May He continue to carry you and your beloved, and sanctify you both daily to resemble the Son of God more and more.
With my love,
Tehila
simplyhelpinghim
January 30, 2013 at 9:16 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Oh, thank you so much for your encouragement. I am so thankful that you took time out of your day to speak to my heart. Blessings to you and in your marriage!
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