If you’ve read my Mission Statement, Dreams & Goals you’ll know that I want SHH to be a place where no masks are worn and all are loved. If you haven’t read it, you can find it here. Today I’m being honest, no masks 😉
This week has been crazy for us. Being a stay at home family, we tend to move at a much slower pace than most. My son has been attending cub scout camp all week, which happens to be almost 45 minutes away.
So…..we’ve had to get up and “move” in the am, just to get him there on time. This has not proven easy.
My kiddos are not the always loving brother and sister type. They have times when they do play together very well, but it doesn’t seem to be the majority of their time. Instead, they fight, pick on and bother each other. Sigh.
Each morning this week, some calamity has befallen us. Mommy is tired.
I believe part of the reason is a shared room. A decade later and I’m *patiently* waiting for an extra room to finally give them their own space. That day has not yet to arrive.
What ways do you combat fighting against your kiddos? I’d love to hear them!
Signed,
A Tired and Tried Help Meet
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Theresa
July 23, 2012 at 1:18 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
I relate so well to this. I don’t like being very busy. I feel like I can’t get anything done if I am spread to thin and I am not very effective at anything.
As for the arguing, I separate them in their own rooms. I tell them I love them both and it hurts me to hear them fighting.
simplyhelpinghim
July 23, 2012 at 7:54 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
I don’t like be crazy busy, I want to get things done at my own pace. LOL! I wish we had separate rooms, that would make things very different I believe. Thank you for stoppin by! Blessings!
Kari@CountHisBlessings
July 20, 2012 at 11:10 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
After reading these comments, I am a lil afraid to answer here, but my kids get along great! I am not saying this to make any one feel bad, only because I believe I know why and I only want to help others. My answer… PRAYER!! I started praying for each of my kids and their relationship with the other sibling the moment I found I was pregnant. I didn’t stop praying. I probably prayed more for their relationships with one another then I did for healthy pregnancies. I believe with ALL OF MY HEART that it worked. My kids truly adore one another. Do they have times they fight, yes! What do I do… I get rid of the problem. If it is a toy, it is gone. I don’t care what happened. No toy is more important then their relationship, period. The next time they play with the toy, they usually make the right choice and if they don’t… it is gone for good. But really, and truly, it isn’t my parenting… it is God’s grace and His answering of this Mommy’s many prayers. I hope this helps someone.
simplyhelpinghim
July 20, 2012 at 8:35 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Thanks for the encouragement girly! I truly appreciate it. I believe we are all very run down this week and just need a break 😉 Praying for a great weekend and week ahead! Blessings friend!
Holly Petrie
July 20, 2012 at 12:02 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Michael and Michaela share a room and every night bedtime is so difficult with one keeping the other up, getting out of bed and the other following, etc. But somehow we manage. I’m so happy that they play (pretty) well together since she’s not even three and he’s 5-1/2.
When Michael went to day camp at church, we had quite a drive too (about 3 hours a day). Every morning when we brought Michael in, he gave me a kiss and hug and then did the same with Michaela. His teacher told Michael, “You’re such a good big brother and Jesus loves that.” She also told me what a sweet boy he was and how happy she was to have him in her group. Seeing how happy Michael and Michaela were to see each other at the end of the day nearly brought to tears.
They are blessed to have each other and Bob and I are even more blessed to have them!
simplyhelpinghim
July 20, 2012 at 5:43 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
That is so sweet! 🙂 I remember it used to be that way with my two. As they’ve gotten older, they need their own space more and more. They do play well together most of the time, but look at during the others! lol! Thanks for stoppin by girly! Blessings friend!
Alicia@the Overflow
July 19, 2012 at 11:42 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
FIve kids and fourteen years of parenthood hasn’t given me the magic bullet for fighting. But I have learned that humor helps. Sometimes when my kids fight, I make them stand nose to nose and sing a happy song together. Crazy? Yes- but the sillies often turn into forgiveness and grace 🙂 Stopping by from the HAH blog hop!
simplyhelpinghim
July 20, 2012 at 5:42 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Oh singing! That might help 😉 We love to sing! Thanks for the idea, and for stoppin by! Blessings!
Jenni Mullinix
July 19, 2012 at 11:17 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
I only have one right now, so I have so advice for you! Hoping you find some answers soon. Thanks for linking up at Thrive @ Home Thursday! 🙂
simplyhelpinghim
July 20, 2012 at 5:41 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Today is fresh with now mistakes in it (yet) 🙂 Thank you for stoppin by! Blessings!
Simply God's Girl
July 19, 2012 at 8:43 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
So sorry it is a trying Thursday! Hope that it gets alot better for you! Thank you for posting!
simplyhelpinghim
July 20, 2012 at 5:38 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
That’s ok 😉 It happens. Tomorrow is always fresh with no mistakes in it 😉 Thank you for stoppin by! Blessings!
Audra Michelle
July 19, 2012 at 3:01 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Thanks for linking up at Thrive @ Home! I feel your pain. We are trying to get our boys to share a room. It’s not easy! With them being so little, someone is always waking up crying at night which then wakes everyone else…
simplyhelpinghim
July 19, 2012 at 7:15 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Yes, my peanut gets up in the am before my son and she often wakes him up. That just doesn’t start the day off right either :/ Thank you for stoppin by! Blessings!
Nikki
July 19, 2012 at 11:40 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Oh, big hugs to you! I feel you. I’m a morning person and still struggle with starting our days when there are kids in tow!
Glad I caught up with you again over at Thankful Thursday so I knew to pray for you…
simplyhelpinghim
July 19, 2012 at 7:14 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Thank you for the prayers! I love my mornings, but I like them non-rushed! LOL! Thank you for stoppin by! Blessings!
Mary Beth
July 19, 2012 at 8:36 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
It’s always a struggle to get up and get moving when that is not part of the normal routine! I am always late and I just have one kiddo! Just some encouragement, my brother and I fought like cats and dogs growing up but we are extremely close now! 🙂
Thomas hit someone at school yesterday. In the face. and pushed her (yes HER) to the floor. Breaks this mommy’s heart. I don’t know what to do with that.
Mary Beth
simplyhelpinghim
July 19, 2012 at 7:14 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Yes, getting 2 kiddos, a baby and myself out the door is a challenge! LOL! Thankfully tomorrow is the last day! YAHOO!
My kiddos hit each other :/ Ugh!
Blessings friend!
Deanna
July 19, 2012 at 8:17 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
I feel your pain. I am not a morning person either and when I have to get up early, I am cranky! And when I am cranky, I am sensitive to everything. When I get that way, I need to find some quiet to just breathe. A nap with Gavin doesn’t hurt either…and we both seem to calm down with some snuggle time.
simplyhelpinghim
July 19, 2012 at 7:11 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
A nap….ahh how I long for a nap! LOL! My kiddos are too old for that, but quiet time with them reading or coloring is very nice as well! Thank you for stoppin by! Blessings!
Ruth
July 19, 2012 at 8:13 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
I love your honesty! It’s so good to read ‘real’ posts. I have no advice unfortunately, but will pray that you get that extra room!
simplyhelpinghim
July 19, 2012 at 7:10 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Honesty is the best policy 😉 Masks are for masquerade balls 😉 Thank you for your prayers! Blessings!
lisa
July 19, 2012 at 7:44 am (UTC -4) Link to this comment
Hello,
I am dropping by from the link-up and OSCL, and I can sooo identify with this post! Our 5 youngest children are still at home, and sometimes the bickering is just too much. And usually by mid-day, Mama is exhausted – physically and emotionally. But I found some things that work: the children who are arguing or picking on each other have to hold hands for 30 minutes without letting go. This usually ends up in a major giggling session between the children who were previously at each other’s throats. 🙂 Or I give the children a “service” to do for me – together…which usually calms them down and they end up chatting and laughing by the time they’re finished. Sometimes, however, I sit them down and talk with them and share Scripture, and we pray together.
Hang in there, friend. The days are long but the years are short. There will come a day (take it from a Mama who has seen 2 of her children leave the nest) when you will miss these times of having your little ones with you – fighting or not. 🙂
I’m your newest subscriber and look forward to getting to know you better.
Grace to you,
Lisa
simplyhelpinghim
July 19, 2012 at 7:09 pm (UTC -4) Link to this comment
I have tried the holding hands bit, but giggling is not what happens here :/ I like the idea of a “service” for me 🙂 That would be beneficial! LOL! I also use the Child Training Bible with them as well.
I am ready for this week to be over 😉 I think a lot of my tired and tried feelings are because of running around all week!
I’m so glad that you stopped by! Thank you for your encouragement!
Blessings!